It’s okay to not be okay…

Wednesday Wisdom 🙂

Inspiration for this week comes from Isaiah 41: 9-10

“For I have chosen you and will not throw you away. Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”

When I turned 42, my favorite brunette wrote me a letter entitled “42 Reasons We Love you”. It is my favorite birthday present of all time and I go back and read it often.

My favorite farmer and I love being parents. I think that both of us would report that we have enjoyed all of our children at all of their different life stages. Our greatest priority is simply to be with them and love them on their life journey. The adventure of parenting is not for the weak-hearted. We’ve shared smiles, laughter, tears, heart ache, anger, frustration and any number of varying emotions over the past 19 years. God has used each one to shape us as both individuals and as a family.

Sometimes I doubt my “mothering skills”. Worry creeps into my brain that I haven’t been patient enough – I haven’t been understanding enough – I haven’t supported enough. That’s when I go back and read that letter. It serves as a great reminder of the tremendous blessing of being a mom and gives me confidence that I have answered this incredibly important calling from God in a meaningful way.

Ashley Grace covered a lot of territory in her 42 reasons – from push up contests to forgiveness to fashion advice to faith. You can click here to read them all if God puts that desire on your heart. But, today I’d like to talk about the one that didn’t make the original list. I guess since I’m going to turn 44 in a couple of months that makes me eligible to change it to 43 Reasons We Love You 😉

#43: It’s okay to not be okay.

Hopefully Ashley Grace won’t mind that I added to her gift because I pray that my children all internalize this as they travel the journey each day.

I’ve lived the above passage from the prophet Isaiah.

  • I’ve been broken.
  • I’ve been afraid.
  • I’ve lacked hope.

I’ve not hidden that from my children.

  • They’ve seen me struggle.
  • They’ve seen me fall.
  • They’ve seen me look to God for help in order to get back up again.

All of those things have happened because I know that it’s okay to not be okay. That’s why God sent his son Jesus – to help us to become okay even when we’re not okay. While the initial moment of surrender is hard for those like me who prefer to be in control, the result ensures that we live with grace. When I carry Jesus in my heart:

  • He heals me.
  • He trades my fear for faith.
  • He fills my heart with love and gives me hope.

Although I may fall at times on the journey, I never truly fail because He fills the gap and picks me up so that I can continue the journey. God has chosen me as one of His own and holds me up with a victorious right hand. Each time that I fall, there is pain during the struggle but it is replaced with a deep sense of peace as I lean on God to find the strength to move forward in faith.

Our culture teaches that it’s not okay to not be okay. But it is. Jesus came to heal the broken. And that is perhaps the most beautiful gift of all 🙂




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8 responses to “It’s okay to not be okay…

  1. Jennifer James

    Thanks, I needed this affirmation as I head to the hospital for a knee replacement. I’m not OK now, but that’s OK.

    • So glad that it helped you, Jennifer! I am praying for you as you go through surgery and the resulting healing process.

      Pack your faith to live with grace 🙂 God will carry you.

      Take care,

  2. Roger Hunt

    Love it Anne! Always an inspiration! This one today spoke to me in a way I needed. Thank you. I look forward to Wednesday mornings in a special way. Love the picture of you all! May your day be filled with blessings.

    • Thank you, Roger! I am so very thankful for your steadfast support and am glad that my posts are meaningful to you.

      It looks like you got more snow than we did, but our ground is now white as well. It feels like winter has come early. I hope that you and your family are doing well. I know that you are still missing Abe – and hope that you will get to wrap all of your grandkids in a big hug this Christmas season 🙂

      Take care,

  3. DEBORAH ALLEN Wylde Katz


    • Thank you Deborah. I am thankful for what God puts on my heart every week to share, and hope that it continues to be meaningful to all those who read 🙂

      Have a blessed Christmas season!
      Take care,

  4. Linda Redmon Willson

    Many thanks Anne for your inspirational words which add nicely to another special day and also one I can share with friends….I am a Mother of two grown sons and carry in my heart a profound belief that God is with us to guide, protect, forgive and love us thru our failures and successes!

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